October 13, 2018

Musings: Moving On…*

Please note, this is a collaborative guest post with CICA UK. 

The hardest part might be having the strength to walk away from an abusive relationship, but there is more to come after you’ve done that. For some survivors it can be hard to move forward with your new life and come to terms with what has happened to you in the past. 

Whilst it can be extremely daunting moving forward with your life, there are some things that might help on the road to a better life for yourself. 

These are some things that might help you to move on from an abusive relationship. 

Talk about what happened to you 

Whether it’s to a professional, a family member or a close friend, opening up and talking about the things that happened to you can be incredibly helpful. Talking about what happened might help you to come to terms with it, and if you speak to a therapist or other professional they might help you to deal with some of the more serious things that might have happened. 

See the blame where it truly lies 

The fact of the matter is that the blame for what has happened lies truly with the abuser, there is nothing that you could have done differently to change the outcome of this, and it’s important that you don’t try to take some of that blame upon yourself. 

Move on with your life 

Whether it’s getting a new job, or moving to a new area moving on with your life helps you to let go of the past and the things that happened to and truly move forward. If you have been abused then you might have the right to claim for compensation under the CICA Government scheme. Get in touch with the team at CICA UK who can help you with a claim. 

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Focus on what you like 

Depending on the type of abuse that you were subjected to, you might find that you put your interests and hobbies out of your mind as a way of protecting the things you enjoy. Start to find joy in these things again like baking, gardening or drawing or painting. Your creative side might have been diminished in your relationship, but now you’ve said goodbye to that it’s time to enjoy the things you like once again. 

Be patient 

The reality is, getting over an abusive relationship is going to take time. It’s important that you’re patient with yourself and you don’t push yourself to do things that you’re not ready for. Don’t put a time frame on your healing and make sure that you’re completely ready to take any new and big steps in your life. 

Char xo

Please note, this is a collaborative guest post with CICA UK. 

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