June 11, 2018

Musings: 7 Ways to Stop Overthinking

Confession: I am a huge over-thinker, I don’t know if it stems from self-doubt, feeling a little anxious at times or wanting to know what’s right in front of me but sometimes I can’t stop going over things. Its not all the time, it mainly relates to situations I care about or things that happened in the past that I wish I could have changed. But what good does that do? Nothing. So I came up with a few tips to stop me unlocking the box that is the past and help me do better in my present and future.


What is overthinking you might ask? Google says:



gerund or present participle: overthinking

think about (something) too much or for too long.

“I often wonder if women tend to overthink situations”

1. Rationalise what you’re doing or what you’re thinking about

Will it matter in a week, year or month? Then stop, breathe and work out exactly what it is about this particular thought that is bothering you. This describes it exactly:

via @marianna_hewitt’s IG story.

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2. Break it down

No I don’t mean start a rap battle, I mean write down or speak your thoughts aloud. This will help you get it out of your head and manage a thought process that works for you. Repeating them to another person you feel comfortable with will also help you gain a different perspective.

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3. Breathe

Using apps like Calm or Headspace first thing in the morning or last thing at night to help you in reference to point 1). Even writing simple to-do lists or keeping a journal might help to. I always find that writing things down is my truth and I find more honesty in writing than speaking.

Read more: Musings: Take Care, Some Self Care Tips to Get You Through

4. ‘No one cares as much as you’

This phrase sounds a little harsh, but there is definitely truth in it. And of course, not to disregard what you’re overthinking isn’t valid, but no one can see inside your head but you.

Example, when I first started going to the gym I used to think everyone was watching me. I remember on my first visit, I lasted what 10 minutes, I was so paranoid that everyone was watching me. In actuality, no one cared as much as me. Its natural to glance at someone, and whilst you personally may think they’re staring, it could be just a quick glance. Fast-forward a few years later, I honestly don’t care when it comes to being in the gym. I’m here for me and that’s what I’m focusing on.

Read more: Musings: Things that Annoy Me at the Gym


5. Find a focus

When I’m focused on something e.g writing a blog post, during a HIIT session or having a massage (my weekly dream), I find that I don’t have time to overthink because I’m focused on a task. During the task, I’m focused on completing it to the best of my ability or simply wanting to get it over and done with. Find a hobby, explore a passion, make time for it and stick to it. Consistency is key.

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6. Live

This might be a broad one but learning to live and live in the moment helps me to stop overthink because I’m truly absorbed in the people I’m with or the world around me. When I travel, particularly solo, I make a habit of turning off my emails or putting my phone on airplane mode whilst I’m out exploring. There is solace in escapism.

Read more: Musings: Why You Should Live Your Best Life, Always.

7. Make a plan

This encompasses all points 1 to 6 in some way, shape or form, but logically making plans and goal setting is a great way to stop you overthinking. Obviously life gets in the way, so why not dedicate an afternoon or evening every week (or one day per month) dedicated to you. Sort out your personal admin, plan ahead and make those dreams come true.

Read more: Musings: The Joy of Cancelled Plans

How do you combat overthinking? Let me know by commenting below. 

Char xo 

Memes and quotes sourced from WeHeartIt, they do not belong to me. 

7 responses to “Musings: 7 Ways to Stop Overthinking”

  1. kimc91 says:

    These are good tips I’m sure I’ll find myself referring to them in the near future x

  2. hollyjohnsen says:

    Perfectly said! Is what you’re worrying about going to matter x amount of days down the road? Nope? Then it’s time to move on. XOXO.

  3. Monique Travels says:

    Love this because I literally overthink everything and never know how to manage it! I especially like your point about writing down your thoughts in a journal – can really help to get things off your mind

  4. Debbie says:

    I literally over think every single thing, no matter how small. 😭 This post is so helpful, I’ll deffo be using some of these tips! 💖

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Welcome to my little space on the internet, known as Memoirs and Musings. I’m Char, short for Charlotte and my blog/website/diary is dedicated to documenting my Memoirs and Musings, hence the name. I wouldn’t say I was your ‘typical’ blogger either. I don’t care about getting the perfect flatlay or feeling bad for not posting, I just enjoy writing. If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading. Anyway, I love to travel, indulge in a glass of white wine, when plans are cancelled and purchase overpriced make up.  I guess that’s me in a nutshell, trying to figure out this thing called life, have fun and never lose sight.